Porn Security Is ALWAYS Necessary

  Even though we bachelors enjoy the solitude to fire up porn whenever we want, it's very important to note that you should always keep that crap out of the easily accessible areas if/when humanly possible. You much plan for every contingency, and suspend for the moment the idea that no woman/other person will ever enter your place.

 Computer wise, be sure to have your porn located in a folder at least not located on your desktop. You need to have that at least one layer below what is typically accessible should you decide to keep some saved on your comp. Even then, relabel the folder to something not obvious like "NASTY BUTT PORN" but rather something that people would skip over thinking nothing was in it like "Autoexe.bat" or "2008 Tax Forms". And neeeeever save any of that stuff to your typical images folder, just in case.

  Additionally, just make it a habit anytime you're online to use incognito mode so that histories arn't saved. Google has a nasty habit of auto-filling certain fields that you least expect. It can take your recent search for "golden showers" and plop that beast into certain email subject lines in some cases, that, might include a woman using your computer be typing "good morning" in the subject line.

  As for DVD's and VHS tapes (if anyone is so absurd to use such things these days), that stuff needs to be in a plain a$$ box in the back of your deepest closet. If you watch it, put it back. These items should not be book ending anything on your library shelves, or worse, be used as coasters on your coffee table.

   Honestly, it would be dumb to say women don't think for a second we don't watch porn. We're dudes, it's what we do. In the instance that they ask you if you watch porn, a solid reply is "yeah, but it's been a while." And the subsequent question, no, you do not watch it with your friends (and guy code dictates that you never will). But if you go about smashing it in her face that you do watch porn, well, you might be lonely for a loooong time.

  Remember, when it comes to chicks and porn, out of sight, out of mind. ;)

Cleanliness Isn't Next To Bachelorliness

fig. 1-1 You don't have to......

   As a bachelor, I think most of us understand that cleanliness is not one of our top priorities. Now obviously I'm not addressing personal hygiene (was yo' stank ass), but rather the state of our apartments, cars, etc.etc.etc.

   I'm sure I hit some of the more extremes when it comes to lack of sanitation about the house. Several examples including:

• After joining the Army and living off post, I didn't vacuum my apartment for a full year, mainly because I didn't own a vacuum. Was I lazy and kinda gross for not doing it sooner? Probably, but I wasn't exactly hosting any parties/chicks at my house either so who the f**k cares.

• Whenever I drop a non-perishable food item on the floor (i.e. cereal, chips, ice cubes, coffee, etc.), I just kick that bitch under the fridge. Cats won't get it, and certainly saves me some time. (Gross, I know, but nobody'd know until I told them ;)

• I've had a coffee maker for about 3+ years now, and only a few weeks ago realized it has a replaceable coffee filter in it. Given, it looked like a core sample of a black hole, I figured it was probably okay. Then upon having coffee at a friends house who changed it regularly, I realized it was probably time to change the thing.

• I do laundry when I run outta stuff to wear, and I sure as hell don't use a dryer sheet. Don't need it. I figure if there's a sock stuck to my shirt, I'll figure it out (and it's kind of a karmatic f**k you to my ex-girlfriend who would literally lose her sh*t everytime I did laundry and didn't use a dryer sheet. Look, I don't want to smell Bounty soft okay??)

   To narrow in, Bachelor Code speaks to a general sense of cleanliness. Your place/car doesn't need to be spotless, but it DOES need to be ready for company at the last minute. I'm talking about a emergency kit for that last notice chica/party chance. Much like the storage of pasta items (see previous post), you need to be ready! Consider the following in this kit:

1. Clean bedding (if you didn't already know, chicks change their sheets when they know a guys coming over. Saw that on The Real World. Why they do that? I have no idea. I'm sure if they left their sheets on there for two weeks, it's smell like daisies and what not)
2. Clean, foofy towels. The softer, the better. And remember to leave a hand towel on the sink so that people can wash their hands after going to the bathroom. Don't do what you and I do, and expect them to dry their hands on their pants. Or worse, send them the wrong message and make them believe you don't even wash your hands.
3. A new pump bottle of hand soap. See above. Nobody wants to use your bar soap and give you a handy by proxy.
4. Candles. Don't need to light 'em, just need to have them around. Chicks just like that kinda stuff.
5. Wine. Forgot to add this in the food post, but ALWAYS a good idea to have. Throw in a GOOD bag of coffee too, not that ground up store brand dirt you typically drink. 
6. Dryer Sheets. (See above...and I don't wanna talk about it)

  Now that's a start of bare essentials. Based on how deeply entrenched you are in bachelorhood, definitely add stuff. The trick here is to have stuff you wouldn't personally want or care to have around, but you know it would probably be good to have in a pinch based on your personal habits if you were ever expecting company to show up last minute.

  But bottom line, don't panic if there's a beer stain on your sh*tty couch or there's a month old pizza still in your fridge. You can let this happen, why? Because nooobody's there to complain about it! ;)

Sustainable Food Stores!

   Ramen is the food we almost all have grown to know and love. The staple food in college and what not, ramen is awesome. It's cheap, it lasts forever, and better yet, it's extremely customizable.

   This is the ultimate bachelor chow on the planet because it doesn't require a lot of preparation, and you can literally cook it and chow it under 15 minutes.

   In my bachelor experience, I do try to eat healthy, but I sure as hell am not going to make a gourmet salad for myself, or whip up a five course meal every night. I'm pretty sure most bachelors don't either. My record of living on this stuff would be about 2.5 years after I first started the Army. And even more odd, I chose to eat this. Had the carbs I needed, toss in some hot dogs (protein), green beans (for "something green"), and some times cheese or an egg. Not high in fat, filled me up, and hell, I even ate out of the same pot every night that I just left on the stove and washed once a week.

   Bachelors don't cook fancy. That's Bachelor Code. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't be able to. I always keep a small emergency "oh sh*t I have a date coming over" food store in my cabinets just in case. Typically it's a box of penne pasta (I know, I know, more pasta), a jar of Vodka pasta sauce, a can of olives, a jar of capers, and a frozen ass slab of chicken in my freezer. This comes together in an instant should someone be coming over.

   Other bachelor choices can include Hot Pockets, Beeferoni out of the can (literally, straight out the can with a spoon), and my ultimate creation, Nasty Taco Pizza. That's where you nuke a .99 cent pizza (typically Totinos), hammer the top with chili, Fritos (for crunch), ranch, and whatever else you want. Fold it up like a taco, and just go to town. It's not pretty but it works!

   So Bachelor Code for food? Keep your food quick and easy, you got better sh*t to do!

In The Question Of Pets

  Now assuredly I will get some flak about this post as probably the majority of people out there (i.e. dudes) are all about dogs and think cats are just animals without purpose.
 
  Well now, give me a second.....

  First and foremost, under the flag of Bachelor Code, as well as Guy Code, it's important for men to own an animal. This shows women (and potential girlfriends) that we are responsible adults and that we can actually care for another living thing. And no, plants don't count.

  Where the scales tilt in argument for dogs v. cats is when you begin to wander into the area of bachelorhood. Bear in mind, as a bachelor, you'll be typically out of the house more. Working, hitting the bars, going on trips, hopefully staying the night at chicks houses, etc.etc.etc. Cats, mind you, are very low maintenance. As long as they got sustenance and a semi-clean cat box, they're good to go for extended periods of time. You don't need to worry about getting home to take them for a walk, or about them chowing through your bathroom door when you're not home. And mooore importantly, if a cat doesn't like anyone you bring home, more often than not, they'll just avoid you two outright. Dogs have a tendancy to growl, bark, beak your date in the crotch, etc.etc.etc.

   Now I'm not saying cats are better than dogs by any standard. Both make awesome pets, and both have their pros and cons. But as a bachelor, I'm satisfied knowing that if I need to head to my friends for the weekend who lives a couple hours of way, all I need to do is leave a couple ginormous bowls of food and water out, and they'll be alright.

The Key Is Resilience And Truth

fig. 1-1 No, that's not me. I don't own a guitar.....

With sooo much insight to provide to the universe, I've decided to offshoot from my normal ranty-blog HERE with a focus on being a bachelor, and what's expected.

Since graduating in college, I've pretty much been on my own as a bachelor since 2001. With only a 4 year relationship to speak of that ended (poorly) last year, I've been doing this for quite a while. I'm not saying I've got this mastered, but I sure as hell got it down to a science.

Now bare in mind, this is NOT guy code. As there might be some overlap, it's important to note that guy code becomes somewhat warped when you're in bachelor mode. In most cases, yes, guy code trumps bachelor code, but not always. So just keep reading and you'll learn....ALOT.

For you men, this might be a good resource after you've begun living on your own. To learn the do's, the don't, what is normal, and what you're doing wrong (i.e. if you own doilies).

For you women, this could be a interesting (or terrifying) insight into how we operate under the surface. Based on all men theory out there about women, there's basically no difference in how single women live, and how women in relationships live. We, however, are EXTREMELY different.

I've done my research and looked at a few other blogs out there to see what the trending thought patterns are. In a nutshell, I'm not impressed. One blog, I found had about 10 entries and was last updated about two years ago. Others spoke about the importance of having a good pair of dress shoes and how to tie a tie. No, no no no no. That is far from it. I promise two things to reads. 1) Brutal honesty as to what the fundamentals are about being a bachelor and 2) I'll post more often than once every couple of weeks. I rant so much on my other blog, that I'll make it a point to stop by here with pics and what not to add to this database of wisdom.

Buckle up kids, it's gonna get bumpy!